How would you like your parents to treat you?
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I have been asked to write on this topic, and it would help me greatly if you could provide your opinions, and personal examples if possible.
So do chip in your two-sen worth regarding
1. Choices - studies, career, church/beliefs, friends, relationships
2. Privacy - room, handphone, internet usage
3. Activities - hanging out (Who? Where? When?), computer games, work, holidays
4. Money
5. Housework
6. Anything else not listed here
It's free flow, open to good and bad, biblical or not. There are no right answers. Your input is crucial in order to do a piece that honestly reflects and examines the thoughts of this generation.
Oh ya, you don't need to write on everything, just any that catches your attention.
Thanks, y'all! =)
I would like my parents to treat me equal....which i do not have the chance to experience it since i am the only child...My parents are divorced and my mum is a single mother. but back in the young days, dad used to stay with us and through that i can say a little of how happy i am from they ways that they brought me up...
I would want a sense of freedom and also restriction. I do want my parents to give me freedom but at the same time control me so that i wont choose or move the wrong path which is what they are doing. I do like my parents to questions me if they are curious about what i am doing. And of course, asking about my dad and showing concern would be appreciated.
Not everything in life we share with them but as long as they have time for us even just an hour a week would probably mean a lot to most of us.
Freedom given is the important but they are there to control us so that we know our limits based on the culture or our own background or even society.
I'm a person who choose family and friends over career and studies...i guess that shows clearly who am i...
I need my privacy, my room.. i do not mind my parents checking my hp, if by asking it would be a way to make you feel respected.
I look forward for family holidays but i do want to spend time going vacation with my friends too...
Sufficient money provided for food and personal usage is important but if they could not afford at times or need help financially, i do not mind working part time or just earn extra to ease their burden...since they contribute so much which lays over more than 20 years
I had never done any heavy house work b4 i admit until i get into college..Mum would not allow me to touch anything by saying that i needed to study hard...until today...but still i try helping around if i can...without her knowledge..lol but yeah by giving me a little house work sometimes makes me feel better :P
Hope this helps! all the best charms...
Parents desires to give the best they can for their children. They protect us from young, shield us away from the bad and evil things that will polute our young minds and innocence. As we grow older, we mature, see things at a different level and our way of thinking changes. We see the need to slowly break away from this same-level of protection. Parents come to a point and realise their use-to-be young ones now have their own mind, no longer relying on them as much.
As teenagers, we desire space. Space in terms of having room to discover new things. We have big dreams, desire to discover the many wonders out there, big ideas... everything is just BIG. and these gets squashed and swept under the carpet when parents turn to be the NO-ers (NO!! NO!! NO!!).lolz. Parents, sometimes do not understand that we, teenagers need space and perceives it as a form of rebellion. And teenagers react (labelled as rebellion) to this "over-protective-parents-syndrome". What I believe is, all teenagers are looking for is space. When there space, there is a form of trust,respect, closer bond. They want parents to still protect and give them rules and restrictions. BUT with the understanding that their children hv come to the point where they need to discover and learn things on their own. Freely give them the choice to make their own decisions, give their advise (consequences we teenagers might not consider) respect their decisions and always be there for them (good or bad outcome from the decision). I believe each teenager desires for his/her parents protection and involvement over each aspect in their life (relationship, privacy. studies).A 15 year old teenager needs a different kind of protection that she had when she was 5.
As a teenager, I desire space. Moving up to KL and staying with my sister and being a distance from my family was a good step. It wasn't easy having both of their daughters away from home. haha. But through time, I embrace the trust that my parents have for me to take care of myself here, driving around, handle my studies, personal life, household. My parents still call, SMS, Email and ask and check if everything is ok and I really love that they do cause they care. They too are learning to slowly let go. The usual what-is-all-the-details to is everything ok? haha however many times, they forget. lol.
Know what is great? to be able to know that you have your parents understanding and supporting for U to discover and learn the many things in life.
The truth is parents do not know. They might not know how, because they never experienced this. They may have forgotten that was exactly what they long for when they were growing up. There are how-tos books, and great speakers on hw teenagers think... but I personally believe, all they need is to sit down and really HEAR their child.To understnad how he/she really feel how they want to be treated. That's the bestest book/speaker or anything magic in the world!
A child needs his/her parents at all points of life, as a child, teenager, married. That never changes; just the depth of protection.
i'd like my parents to constantly be showing an interest in how i've been coping with everything in my life, from studies, to sports, to music, and especially my relationships with other people, including my siblings. but not in the way where they may make me feel like i'm not living up to their expectations or something, or that i'm not trying hard enough, or that my achievements are not satisfying enough.
i want them to be interested if i'm struggling with something, and help me get through the struggle without making me feel like i'm incapable or a failure. i want them to always inspire me to do the best that i always can, because as youth especially, it's easy for us to settle for a mediocre life. i dont want them to get me to do what i hv to do out of guilt, but out of love instead.
in terms of privacy and freedom, i want them to show that they trust me. and want them to support me in everything that i choose to do, even if i set my heart on being a roadside sweeper.
(just a lil list)
While it is the natural instinct of any parents in this world to give the best for their children, I believe Mama's boy treatment should be abolished. Period. There's no two ways about it. I can sense modern day Chinese Malaysian boys are growing up as wimps and it is not good for the society in the long run because they are not trained to withstand unfavourable conditions as they are too used of being shielded from the harsh realities of the real world. So it is up to the parents whether to let their children to swallow the red pill or the blue pill.
Charmain,
I believe that children should choose their career completely by themselves.
Then the parents should accept, support and standby the decision of their children for choosing the career they want even though kadang-kadang their choices dont have a good future in Malaysia.
Parents should never force their children to become what they actually liked. I strongly believe -lah... choosing a career should be done freely, not by forcing someone against their will.
I can't imagine if my parents tried to control what I would become, I would hate them! haha
Regards,
jau sang
Thanks for the comments, you guys. They have been very helpful! =)
Ulquiorra -- Vincent right? I totally agree with you. Mama's Boy treatment must be done away with!
Yeah I'm Vincent :)
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